Welcome back here we are now at day number four if you remember day three was all about taking action and a lot of the actions that you wrote down and that you’re working on hopefully even starting today or even starting yesterday are going to be at some point outside of your comfort zone and when things are outside of.
Your comfort zone it produces.
That we call fear so we want to talk about how to face your fears and understanding fear to make sure that fear does not stop you and that’s one thing you have to realize first and foremost is that all successful people when you go.
Out and look at the people who have already achieved the big things that maybe you’re aspiring to be like those people they have faced their own set of fears they’re not immune to theater you’re not unnatural.
For experiencing fear in the state you’re in right now you have to realize first and foremost that it’s normal and.
When you realize that it’s normal you can begin to plan how to face those.
Fears and more importantly how to deal with them so they don’t stop you make the decision right now that fear is not going.
To stop you so you can move forward with confidence even though fear is still going to be part of the equation in order to handle fears or face our fears and move through them we.
Need to understand what it really is ultimately fear is a response from our brain trying to keep us safe alerting us of pending danger and a lot of the time we can perceive certain situations as fearful even though they may not be dangerous to our lives we may experience it as though.
It is so let’s take two different examples one you’re driving down the highway you’re going quite fast let’s say 70 miles an hour somebody cuts you off and you have to immediately slam on your brakes to prevent getting in a major collision the the whole thing happens really quickly your your hardest pounding your pulse is racing you pull over you’re sweating your paw whatever happens your palms.
Are sweaty and you take a moment to.
But you’re experiencing the physical physical sensations of fear of terror whatever you want to call it that is a real physical response you might feel the exact same response in your body physical sensations in your body when you step into a board room or in front of a conference room full of people if you’re accustomed to public speaking the exact same physical sensations may hit your body.
As though you were about to have your life threatened even though you’re only speaking in front of a room now understand the difference.
Here one is a fear response protect in your life the other is a fear response simply out of a comfort zone if you can learn.
To distinguish between the two and accept the fact that these are simply physical sensations from my brain producing a response that’s supposed to protect me now in this situation I’m conscious and aware enough to know that my life isn’t in danger so I can learn to practice moving through these physical physical sensations I can learn to deal with the fear and that’s literally all it takes now it doesn’t happen easily.
You have to make this a deliberate practice so if you have a real problem with something like public speaking it’s going to take work I’m not gonna say it sit here and tell you that it’s gonna happen overnight but now you understand the process now you understand the difference between a real threat and one that’s more imagined and produced by your brain check out Susan Jeffers book feel the fear and do it anyway.
And that’ll be a great launch point for you to do this however even before you do that let’s look at.
Exercise one for your breakthrough goal most importantly or even any short-term or long-term goals that you wrote down in week two look at those examine them and start thinking about any fears that you have about taking action towards those goals write them down and become conscious of them exercise 2 for each fear that you write down take a moment to sit down and think to yourself what is the worst possible outcome that could happen if I do take this action if.
I do face this fear take it to the edge and actually examine how bad it could really get for example I’m terrified of public speaking well ask yourself why well because I might get up in front of everybody and not know what to say or I might get up in front of everybody and say the wrong thing and embarrass myself ok and then what well then I’ll just be really embarrassed and I won’t want to face those people and it’d be really.
Uncomfortable well then what well then I’ll just move on so you begin to realize what these fears actually mean exercise 3 ask yourself this important question is the potential risk of what I’m fearing we’re facing to reap the reward of what I could potentially gain on the end of this most cases the answer is going to be yes so all you need to.
Do is accept it and move through that fear starting today remember that great quote from T Harv Eker if it’s not going to.